“What another person thinks of you isn't your business.” This idea has been popularized in health and fitness circles, almost to the point of cliché. The intent — to empower people to feel good about themselves despite other people’s negative judgments — is honorable. It’s also flawed.
Read MorePeople often give the advice, “Don’t compare yourself to others.” The problem is, you can’t not compare. The things you compare are the things in life that are important to you. They’re a reflection of your values and desires. My contention is that people don't take comparison far enough.
Read MoreToday I want to talk about taking responsibility. Not blaming, but asking “What is my part?” Not remembering previous limits, but asking “I wonder if I can do that?” Not complaining, but asking “If this is important, how can I make this happen?”
Read MoreSelf-limiting beliefs, like mold, fester in the dark. We stumble over hidden habits and limiting beliefs, tripping over our own feet and landing face first in the mud. There are times when our behaviors are blatantly obvious — like stubbing your toe on a rock, it’s easy to tell when and why you’ve messed up. But there are also times when factors hidden deep in our values and beliefs trip us up.
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